100 Days of Healing – Day 8

I spent the entire Summer Solstice inside, and most of it in a dimly lit room. I’m grateful that I have so much room for improvement. Yoga was not helpful yesterday, it was activating. So I stopped.

I started listening to Brené Brown’s book The Power of Authenticity yesterday. She’s a shame researcher and a delightfully authentic human. In her work she’s found that we experience shame the same way we experience trauma, and I want to heal from shame as much as I want to heal from trauma. I’m starting to understand why they often go hand in hand.

I wanted to do a yoga session and thought that would be within my bandwidth today. 11 minutes in, I realized I was getting activated on my way to a trigger, I was hot and sweaty but not in an “I’m exercising” way, I wasn’t enjoying it and was actually starting to be rather miserable.

I wanted to push through, because yoga is supposed to be a good thing, it isn’t supposed to be activating, it’s supposed to help me connect to my body, I didn’t want to be a quitter, it wasn’t even a hard practice…also I am too fat to get into some of the poses, I can’t believe I can’t do this right now, I’ll never be able to get my life on track…

Ah. The shame gremlins she talked about. The thoughts that make me = bad and wrong and not good enough.

I stopped the session. Yoga wasn’t right for me yesterday. Maybe because I was in the process of learning about shame and realizing how much shame I feel about my body. Maybe because I needed more rest (I hiked for two hours the day before). Maybe because I needed to experience recognizing what is good for me and what is not good for me and acting on that for myself, not because someone else said that was the way to do it.

5 thoughts on “100 Days of Healing – Day 8”

  1. Brene Brown is amazing. Your yoga story reminds me of something from Susan David’s book Emotional Agility. She said that while society tends to value grit and perseverance, someone with emotional agility is able to recognize when it’s best to quit something that isn’t working and move onwards and upwards.

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  2. Good for you for stopping the session when it wasn’t right for you. Have you heard of trauma-informed yoga? I don’t know much about it, but I know that it’s a thing. I wonder if running sometimes has a similar effect on me that the yoga had on you that day…I sometimes get unnecessarily anxious and panicky, and parts of my body that aren’t related to running sometimes hurt for a long time afterwards. “Activating,” hmm, I think I may start using that instead of “triggering,” which I’ve never really liked. And that’s really interesting about shame and trauma!

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